How the Young Can Cope with Grief and Loss

By Bentley, George, PhD posted 08-16-2020 17:10


Death, when it occurs, disrupts the lives of those it touches completely, leaving in its wake distraught, tears, and hopelessness long after the burial of a loved one. Grieving for the loss of a loved one afflicts the bereaved, both adults and the young alike, in varying degrees and is more severely felt than any other kind of loss. 

However, young persons with little or no experience with bereavement suffer the most unable to come to terms and, in essence, undergo a “personal death’ that can wreak their lives. Here are a few tips to help the young cope with bereavement.

Pour out your grief through mourning

The impact of grieve depends on how significant the deceased was in your life, personal coping style, and the circumstances in your life. Everyone copes differently, but even the most stoic will breakdown, eventually following the loss of a loved one. Children and young adults do not easily come to terms with the loss of a parent, sibling, friend, or even a pet.

One way to help them cope is through active mourning to unburden their sorrow and accept the finality of death. However, seeking guidance on grief and loss after death by for them is a great help towards coping with their loss. 

The site offers a full suite of funerary services that include every conceivable product needed for interment, articles on coping with grief and healing, as well as counseling and can handle the whole funeral process on behalf of the family.

Seek support

Some people may prefer to grieve in private, whereas others, especially the young, need supportive company around them during this period. Losing a parent or guardian is traumatic and leaves the young one fearful of the future besides the grieving and confusion. 

Friends and family members are best suited to provide comfort and a sense of security that helps the healing process towards a faster recovery.

Moving in with supportive close family members creates an environment of love and empathy that allows you to grieve freely as you heal your broken soul and regenerate for the future. 

Family members and close friends will have the necessary understanding and forbearance as they support you through the post-traumatic stress upheavals. Consideration of professional counseling, especially for the very tender of age, is advisable depending on the level of grief observed.

Pick up the pieces and move on

Give yourself enough time to grieve but do not stay in this twilight zone for longer than it is necessary. You cannot bring back the loved one but there is still life ahead and things to do that may include school, college, or a job to keep. 

Grieve for your loss within a reasonable time and compose yourself, accept the loss, pick up the pieces and complete the works that you delayed.

Understand that the loss you suffered was bad enough but continuing in grieve for ever poses a challenge to the quality life you may have. Going back to active life is equally a good way of coping with loss as one immerses in work or studies rejoining the social scene allowing faster healing.

When to seek professional help

Sometimes the grief stays with you for unnecessarily long compromising your quality of life and relationships. It may generate feelings of despondency and diminished desire for living, at times raising suicidal thoughts and disinterest in normal activities. 

At this stage, you have gone beyond normal grief and into depression that can pose serious health complications and emotional stress. Seek professional guidance to help you cope and to rebuild your life.